Thank you everyone for your thoughts on this. I have taken notes and will get them run by the doctor. Also great idea on the tape recorder. If we do not have one to use I will get one for us. tomorrow is the "big day". First appt. with oncologist. My sister is going with my dad. Currently she is the closest. He lives in Michigan, I am in Illinois, my brother is here too but moving to Michigan, and she is in Ohio. It is so hard being away from him right now. But we are all working together so that helps. If it weren't for my kids keeping me sort of grounded right now, I would have left it all to be there. anyway I will post tomorrow after we here back from the appointment.

Going to call sister and suggest tape recorder.

Thanks again, Tabitha