OP Contributing Member (25+ posts) Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 42 | Mom had another bad day today. She was throwing up and sick to her stomach all day. She is so weak it breaks my heart to look at her. In the past whenever anyone asks her if she is okay she always says yes even when it is obviously not true. Today she answered no. She said that if her scans come back and it shows that the chemo isn't working enough to make it all go away she isn't going to continue treatment. She said an extra year isn't worth being this sick for 6 months of it. I can't say I blame her. If it's this hard for me to watch her be this sick, I can't imagine how it is for her. I also don't know how or if I should push her in either direction. I just let her vent and made sure she knew it was her decision.
Her medical oncologist is almost positive the spot on her lungs is cancer not scar tissue as the people at Hopkins said. He's so sure that even on moms paper work at the chemo center it says she is being treated for lung cancer with metasis on the neck. I don't understand how they know if it has never been biopsied. Even the 3 spots they were convinced were cancer that they actually did biopsy came back negative. There were two others that they were convinced about but they couldn't reach them for the fine needle aspiration. Are the docs being lazy in not doing biopsies? Her oncologist said that the new scans will tell us about the lungs because if they shrink they will have been cancer. Our last visit with moms ent ended with him telling her there was nothing he could do and that she needs to do chemo to try to maintain life for as long as she can. After the visit we went downstairs for the biopsy's and they said they were negative. How can they just not know? Should I be pushing harder? I'm young and I don't think they take me very serious sometimes. Mom just doesn't have the energy to fight. cancer sucks
Lost my mother, Minnie, to Oral Cancer October 29th, 2008. I am so thankful she had the OCF to help her through her five year struggle. |