Delia,
I know what you are going through. My husband was diagnosed just 6 months after our marriage. The scary part was he didn't exhibit the classic symptoms of 'throat cancer'. He had actually gained weight and just felt sluggish. He had a raspy voice but he had always had that. When he was diagnosed he was stage 4 scc in both tonsils and it had spread to several lymph nodes. He had 2 neck dissections and intense 8 weeks of radiation. I thought our battle was done but it had only just begun. He had a 40% chance of survival! But he is 4 years post-treatment next week!! And so far so good. We still struggle but love perseveres. Hang in there. Robin

ps we had a miracle baby feb 17 2004. Our Hannah was a gift post treatment we thought would never happen because Andy had been through so much. So there is always light at the end of the tunnel.