hello all i too find the ups and downs of this and have to talk my self out of the big fear of the wht ifs and what will life be im two months now out of surgery fo a tounge marginal and the second one the neck desection. my oc dr said i cant give yu only facts yu must deep with in find the self that does not look at the cancer its self but live in the good ness of the hope and faith as the attitude has a lot to do with recovery . i did not have to have the treatmens and go every month this was my second month vist today thanks to yu all for this site and the support rd