i'm so sorry about your new mass--and also about your mom. i too have had recurrent oral cancer-scc left anterior tongue-so far 5 excisions and radiation in two years with entirely clear pets and ct. so no mets. but i'm always afraid at the monthly checks--that they'll find another and have to snip some more.

i wonder when i would refuse--when i'll decide quality over quantity. for now i'm so grateful for the time i have. and the incredible joy i feel about my future--however long or short.

i pray that you feel joy right now--no matter what the future. you are very brave.