Bigtwin, Your post was exactly one year to the day, that my husband Erik was diagnosed with tongue cancer. I know exactly the feeling your having right now, that shook up feeling, Christmas coming and trying to get things in order before hand. Erik had about 40% of his tongue removed and all the lymph glands in his neck. He did have to have Chemo and 35 radiation treatments, (he had one positive node). The only real advice I can give is, STOP, Take some deep breaths and begin taking one thing at a time. Im sure you have been exploring this sight, it has THE BEST RESOURCES available (outside the docs) Not to mention the support. If you have a wife have her get on here and keep checking things out, there are tips of the trade for getting through everything.
Its going to be a ride, but its one that I cant say was all bad.
Know we are all here for you!
Jennie