someguyjeff,
I am not great at offering advice, but if I can I will say that you need to keep believing.
Erbitux will help until you can get on a trial and things are changing every day. I am hoping to start a new trial tomorrow that didn't even exist when I was first diagnosed with Mets. I won't lie, the odds are not high, but anything is possible as you have seen here.
As for
Erbitux - lotion, lotion, lotion! Bathe in it because that dry skin is a small but annoying side effect. Keep working on getting on trials if you can and if you want to - they offer people like us hope! I totally understand what you are gong through, I really do, and I would hate to see you resign yourself to defeat while there is still a chance, especially while you can maintain a good QoL.
Just one man's opinion,
The Hellion