Hello MandaRe, I too am sorry that you need to be here. That said , this site is a wonderful resource and place to come to for advice and support. Even words of comfort.
You must still be reeling from this diagnosis and suggested treatment.
I am glad to hear that you are seeking a second opinion. This will be important for you to know that you have sought out the best treatment options for you. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
Should MSKCC suggest the same treatment option, a Total Glossectomy, we will be here for you. There are some of us who have been through this. Sometimes, in order to save a life, extreme treatment is the only option. Don't get too hung up on living without a tongue. There is still great life to be had. Great life.
Tammy