Hi Everyone!

I disappeared for a while-tx was over, hubby was getting better, I went deep into denial and avoidance. Finally sought therapy for myself, am doing much better, too. On the kids 12th birthday we get a call, spots on lungs. What a day to hear that. Today, 8 days and a biopsy later we learn the spots are indeed cancer. So, Monday at dawn we will drive the long drive to San Antonio to see his oncologist and learn about and discuss treatment options. Sigh. Trying to remain optimistic and not fret too much until we hear what all the doc has to say. I figured I should come back here, and try to stay 'active' here so I don't 'run' back into my world of denial and avoidance again. I so need the support and would love to offer support, too. Thank you all for being here!

Husband tongue cancer 7/01/14 (forward/right half of tongue)
43 years old at diagnosis
Partial glossectomy/node removal 7/31/14
PEG tube placed
2 mos high dose radiation
2 treatments cisplatin, 3rd was cxld due to hearing issues
cancer in both lungs, stage 4, 05/18/15
chemo port to be placed on 05/21/15
Full scan on 05/21/15
Chemo, 3-4 types (names etc coming soon) for 7 mos
4th type depends on clinical trial and if placebo or not
He is planning to defy all odds and kick this cancer!