Hi Jane, welcome to the family. The time after the diagnosis felt like a whirlwind to us. We had to get up to speed with what the cancer was all about, the treatments as well as learning to find our way around the hospital system. So, yes, it is perfectly normal for you to feel lost at this time. We have found that people are generally very kind at the hospital and would show us how to do certain things. Do you have access to a dietitian at your hospital? She/he may be able to give you good advice on what to eat when you are lactose intolerant.