Sorry for posting something negative, but I'm sad and I can't understand what I'm doing wrong.

I joined two facebook groups, one for survivors of tongue cancer, and the other survivors of oral head and neck cancer.

I posted only a couple of times in both groups, the last time, I was just asking for some friendly tips from other survivors - I don't even know if I *am* going to be a survivor yet.... tips about fibrosis in your neck, etc.

What I got back was just so hurtful and unfriendly.

One person said that he had been through much worse than me and accused me of complaining, he said "forget about your pain".

In the other group one person replied with just 3 words "ASK YOUR DOCTOR".

What is wrong with me? Why have they been so cold and unfriendly? I've had the same horrible experiences as they have, and aren't we supposed to be helping each other???

Honestly, I feel so hurt and rejected. As if all this wasn't painful enough. I'm so lonely.