Your concern about "stepping on toes" is definitely unwarranted. You wouldn't worry about hurting someone's feelings over buying a car, would you? Shopping for a doctor is just like shopping for anything else - you do the research and expect and deserve the best service. The only difference is, shopping for a doctor is WAY more important because it concerns your health and your life!! You have the right to expect the very best in care. You have great suggestions above, so GO for it! If it bothers you to say "I'd like a copy of all my medical records so I can get a second opinion", you can say your Mother wants you to get a second opinion (or your wife, son, etc.) so that you can make an informed decision re what further steps you will take.