Hi Terri. You've already heard from 2 very knowledgeable people and there are a lot more on here who really have good advice. I just want to welcome you to the forum and trll you that these people really helped get me through some very rough times. I used the feeding tube and still went from 203 lbs to 150. That was before I found all the great advice here, so you already have a head start on this thing.

David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.