One more add to my rant:

Thanks for the link Christine! Super Inspiring, and remember...I was HPV- , smoked heavily for about 10 years, and drank heavily for about 6. But my entire team now believes this is all a stroke of bad luck and I had a cell mutation from maybe a bad gene. The main doctor said he sees smoking/drinking tongue cancers in adults 40 + . I am trying to tell myself this is all just that. Crap Luck.

SCC left lateral tongue, left neck dissection. 2 nodes positive. 3 All Clear then ITS BACK 8/23/11 Shows 1cm in tongue in CT SCAN, Radial Free Arm Flap with Radical Neck Dissection 9/20/11 , All Nodes Negative, But Tongue Tumor Poorly Differentiated. Awaiting next step in treatment on 10/5/11... RIP Nate 7/28/12