I'm so glad that you spoke up. I rarely felt guilty when I yelled at my husband. I looked at it as part of being his caregiver.
Obviously,I never wanted to yell at someone who felt as bad as he did but sometimes it was the only way to get through to him. I think feeling sick, discouraged, angry and all that other stuff can cloud one's judgement. So, if I felt strongly that my husband's judgement was off I let him know it.
I tried to pick and choose my battles but I just knew that sometimes there would have to be a battle.
How smart of you to come here and vent.