If you don't ask your father how he's doing, he may think you don't care and you don't want that. My husband has been dealing with panic, anxiety and depression in a big way since treatment ended 7 weeks ago. Sometimes it's hard to know what to do when someone is feeling this way. One day I just asked him "I'm sorry you're having such a terrible time and I'm not sure what I can do to help you, so please tell me what you need. " His answer was, "Just be there for me when I reach for you." So that's what I do. Aside from the other caregiving duties, emotional support is crucial. It can be hard when as a caregiver you're anxious and depressed yourself, but it's important to try.
Anne