Christine, welcome to OCF. Its always best to start your own thread especially when first joining OCF. That way your post doesnt get lost and both posts will get the attention they deserves.


Finishing treatments in April isnt even 2 months ago. It can take 2 years to return to a somewhat normal lifestyle. Of course, the younger you are usually means the easier you will have it. Everyone is different and will recover at their own pace. It takes months before eating will resume and that is a very slow process before progress is seen.

If you know your father is struggling, please show some compassion instead of refusing to ask how he is. A few words of kindness and understanding can go a very long way in helping your dad to feel better. As a 3x survivor, your statement hurts my feelings and Im one tough person! Many oral cancer patients take antidepressants to aid in their mental well being. Nobody can know how truly horrible it is to go thru these treatments unless they have done it. Caregivers dont have it easy either, but they arent the ones who are in pain and want so bad to eat but cant. Now that the weather is nicer, maybe a short walk in the park or even a ride on a country road may help him to feel better.

Please take some time to read thru some of the posts and info on the main OCF site. There is even a special section for caregivers, maybe that could give you more info.

Best of luck to you both.