Welcome, Tommy - Cancer Boy! I'm sending good thoughts and prayers your way that once the surgery is done your family will not be able to use this name again...EVER! I found this site when my mother got oral cancer and it is such a wonderful place for information and encouragement/support. It's a great idea to introduce your wife to it as I'm sure she will get support and be able to ask anything that's on her mind. I'm a very positive person too and glad to see your attitude is sticking around. It will definitely come in handy so keep up the great work. Sounds like you've done a lot of homework and are comfortable with your doctors - that makes a big difference as well. Take care and B POSITIVE!!!