My husband and I spent the weekend with family in another state. Most had not seen us for over 2 years. I wanted to be sure that no one would react in a negative way to Clark's changed appearance. To prepare them for that, I emailed everyone and described what he looks like, ie, weight loss, facial disfigurement, etc. I asked them to approach him with their best smiles, give him their warmest hugs, tell him how good he looked, ask him questions regarding his upcoming procedure, and feel free to give him some good natured ribbing (as is usual).

They were all glad I clued them in beforehand as they were not shocked when the saw him at last. It was especially effective with the littlest family members who commented that even though he looked different, he was the same person and they still loved him.

It took the pressure off everyone and we had a great time.