Georgette,
I can tell you that even though I had a very compliant patient and one that had a pretty fast recovery, I was still fried after the fact and at times, secretly wanted to run away. It just takes a huge toll on you and none of us give ourselves credit for that. We keep trying to be strong and carry the load.
It will get better but just decide that to some degree, you both are changed by this diagnosis and it will always "sit in the room" somewhere with you. When you can muster it up just keep saying that your research shows things do improve but it takes time. Does your insurance cover Home Health??? Maybe someone other than you pushing the meds would make a difference.
I wish you the best...hang in there,
Deb