Hi I'm new to the forum - 06-14-2003 11:06 AM
I've been viewing this site since my mom was diagnosed with oral cancer in Jan. 2003(tonsil, base of tongue behind sinus) I find it comforting yet I was afraid to tell my story. Today I got bad news from my dad regarding my mom. I'M SAD AND SO SCARED!!! My mom could not have surgery due to a weak heart. Her doctors went the 6 weeks of rad and two weeks chemo method. Yesterday they went to see her oncologist and he said the cancer is still there and that more chemo is necessary. I'm devestated to say the least. I knew surgery would have been a big-big deal yet I wish she had that option. I'm so afraid this is it for my mom. I feel like my world is ending. I have two small girls who mean the world to me and I can't be happy right now. It's not fair to them. I'm going to get some help in trying to deal with this. I try to ask my dad questions and he tells me bits and pieces. He has and is still doing an amazing job taking care of my mom feeding her (the PEG) basically he is her nurse. I live over an hour away from them so it isn't easy to get there as often as I would like.
I guess my question is without knowing every detail, what do I do? My dad wants to know what the docs tell him (only). He feels it gives him hope if he doesn't know too much. Me on the other hand I want to know more. Now I'm guessing there is nothing more they can due. They can only give her chemo and hope it doesn't spread. I'm sick. I wish I had more info, but I don't. I love my mom and can't believe I'm losing her to this disease. I've never felt so helpless in my life.
Thanks for listening.
This site has helped me many times. I felt it was time to say hello.
I guess my question is without knowing every detail, what do I do? My dad wants to know what the docs tell him (only). He feels it gives him hope if he doesn't know too much. Me on the other hand I want to know more. Now I'm guessing there is nothing more they can due. They can only give her chemo and hope it doesn't spread. I'm sick. I wish I had more info, but I don't. I love my mom and can't believe I'm losing her to this disease. I've never felt so helpless in my life.
Thanks for listening.
This site has helped me many times. I felt it was time to say hello.