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#201477 07-15-2022 12:01 PM
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In 2001 I was diagnosed with Squamous cell carcinoma on the right side tip of my tongue. I had It removed and 30 radiation treatments just on my neck (lymph nodes).
I soon forgot about it and didn't even feel like I'd had cancer.

In 2016 I was diagnosed with invasive carcinoma in my right breast, I had a lumpectomy (actually two as they didn't get it all), and 30 radiation treatments. This time I knew I had cancer but was still feeling very positive about the outcome.

In 2018, I noticed an indention on my tongue near the scar from my previous surgery. So,17 years later, there I was with tongue cancer again. I believe it's considered a new occurrence rather than a re-occurrence. I had about 1/4 to 1/3 of my tongue removed. This time I had 30 strong radiation treatments on my tongue and mouth. I had severe mouth sores, lost 36 lbs and was threatened with a feeding tube. I wore a Fentanyl patch and used liquid lidocaine for the pain. I saw the same Oncologist I had for the breast cancer and when I was finally able to ask without crying, I asked him what my prognosis was since this was number three. He said this was a conversation he'd had more than once. He took my hand and said "We just don't know, but I can tell you, no matter what may come, we have something to help you.... New discoveries every day."

I still have what may be permanent radiation damage which affects what I can eat. Nothing mint flavored, no carbonation, nothing acidic, and nothing spicey. Did I mention I grew up on and love Mexican food :-( Also, nothing crisp or crunchy? These foods are either too rough for my tongue or burn and cause sores. It has been an adventure testing and seeing what I can and cannot tolerate. A big concern I have is that my husband and I may be left out of dinner invitations due to my food limitations. Overall, I'm doing good now. I am able to retain a good weight. I really needed to lose what I did but I don't recommend it as a diet. When I'm feeling down, I remind myself of all the other people who have worst challenges...loss of limbs, blindness, etc. Guess we all have something.

Last edited by Brian Hill; 07-16-2022 09:41 AM. Reason: Correction to name of cancer type for search access
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You certainly have had quite the challenging journey. More than most. But you seem to gave come out with a positive spin on it all and a great attitude. Thank you for sharing your story. I too have had multiple cancers and complex and debilitating side effects that are permanent from my treatments. But I have, by staying involved in helping others, tried to put my focus on them not me. It is as much to help me, as it helps to divert what could turn into personal negativity. When I feel that things are insurmountable, I am quickly reminded by someone’s email to me that it could always be worse, and I’m lucky to still be around. It’s an important lesson, one that you seem to have embraced. Wishing you no more bumps in the road, and a healthy future. B


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Thank you Brian for your encouragement. I can't help but sometimes feel that others don't want to hear my story and so I tend to keep it to myself. And then, when I do share, I ask myself ..... do I really want to live in this place where my life is all about my having cancer? It gets confusing for me and I'm wondering if others feel this way too. Possibly a good topic for a new thread?

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Nancy

Wow, you nailed it. I am just over 2 years out from my last treatment. All scans clear - yay!

I too struggle a little with how to manage this experience socially. I tend to hold back my cancer experience with others unless they seem interested. When that opportunity is right, I see the impact. I try to share in pieces and then repeat that I am an open book if they want to know more. Everyone has their own take on this stuff. Some of my own brothers don't know the deepest details and don't want to know and some of them were deeply curious and I shared everything.

Thanks for sharing. Stay safe and keep the faith.

Nels


OC thriver, Tongue Stage IV, diag 3/12/20, surg 4/1/20, RT compltd 7/8/20

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