Jim,
My trick for a meal out is to order soup, then ice-cream or similar--forget the entree!
Or I ask for a 'Junior' meal--never been refused yet!
Had some great meals out with my daughter that way last month, she understood and I didn't feel guilty!
And yes, did do the 'can you box that please?' bit as well!
My son hasn't even come, sometimes, when I've been really down,--in fact I last saw him for half a day, beginning of September!-- but am coming to terms with that now--he's coming for New Year and I shall just enjoy whatever time I get to spend with him. I think he's frightened and also blames me for 'bringing this on myself'--who knows what they think???

Take whatever comes your way to build memories--but also remember that friends are an excellent source of support--both real and cyber--I know I'd be lost without mine!

Brenda