Cindy
You should talk to Harry about what sleeping arrangments work best for both of you. When Bob was really sick I spent too many nights either watching him to make sure he was still breathing or waking up every time he was restless. A few times I fell asleep on the couch from exhaustion and found on those nights I got real rest. So I fell into a pattern of sleeping in our bed a few nights especially when I was worried or he was feeling insecure. I also crashed on the couch a few nights every week. You need to be well rested for your family. I'm sure you can find a balance that will work for you and will not make Harry feel rejected. Be good to yourself in any small ways you can. Denise