Hi Cindy,

With all the issues we deal with having oral cancer your problem seems trival. I don't mean that in a bad way. Everybody deals with these issues in a different way. (Different strokes for different folks) After the surgery my wife and I shared a bed but she was up most of the night either waiting to help me or helping me.

After a few weeks I moved to a bed in the living room. It was decision made by me. At least i was sleeping on the same floor as my wife. it gave me comfort. I realized she had to work a full week so it was needed. She needed to be a able to help me as my primary caregiver and work full time. I was a lucky man to have her.
Do what you feel in your heart what you think is best for the both of you. Don't second guess your decisions. Most of the time your gut feeling is the right one. I hope as you travel this rocky road you continue to post questions and concerns. Seems like someone will always have an answer for you.

Believe it or not one day you will be the one offering support and experiences to new members. Who better to ask than someone who has traveled the path ahead of you?

Best Wishes, Danny Boy