thank you for sharing your experiences and believing me!

I'm trying to keep my feelings (good and bad) in check and just take care of him physically.

This is all new territory for me so I appreciate all the information.

Respite....doubtful as we live an hour from the hospital he is being treated at but I have lined up someone to drive him the 2 days I will be in real estate classes. I am also continuing with my life with friends, Bible studies, notarizing jobs, etc. I have to stay sane and while he has not been a part of our lives (I raised 3 kids by myself, one still at home in grad school), he is suddenly so bored, he's trying to act like my best friend and hovering. I'm not allowing him to pull me in based on sympathy. I am empathetic but I'm looking at it like he's one of my hospice patients I volunteer to take care of. It may sound cold to some but I have to take care of myself.

thanks again! what a wonderful resource this has been for me!