[quote=EzJim] There is always the answer that " I am fighting Oral Cancer and it's affects. Now tell me your excuse for being ignorant".
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Then again, there is always the answer, �He�s fighting Oral Cancer and its affects. Thank you for caring enough to ask.� (If they are just being nosey, they slink away. If not, they often offer a hug.)

One year today ago at about this time Tim ate his last meal by mouth. It was a veggie omelet at the restaurant next to the hotel where we stayed the night before his operation. It wasn�t very good and the pain from the tumor made it hard to eat.

Today he can�t eat, but he is alive. And despite the odds, he may be alive next year, too. Or not. So, yes, his cancer caused us both to reassess what is important and what is not. Does that mean I am glad he went through and is going through this hell? Of course not. But I can�t go back and change things, so I try to make the most of what we have and take no small pleasure for granted.

I try, but excuse me while I go off and indulge in a bit of melancholy. We all deserve that once in a while.