Dawn, I also presented with a grape-sized submandibular node. These can be many other things than cancer, remember - like a cyst (which is what they thought mine was). I had no warts or any other outward indication of
HPV. In fact I don't think I've ever manifested any
HPV symptoms at all, and I've probably had it all my adult life.
The ENT will do a find needle aspiration (FNA) of the lymph node and have it biopsied. It's no big deal, a little pinch. I know it's hard not to worry, but I was told that 80% or more of these things are benign. So take heart and let us know what he/she says.
David2