Welcome to OCF, where I'm sorry that you and your family have to go through this ordeal, you have found the right place for support.

Your husbands cancer is a rare type, however there are a few others on these boards with MEC.

Here is a link to the OCF MEC page: http://oralcancerfoundation.org/facts/rare/mc/index.htm

Please read to become more informed on what you are facing. There seems to be no easy answer to your question so I'll offer some sound advice.

Make sure you are getting the best medical advice out there. Get a second or third opinion from a reputable facility. Personally I went for a nationally ranked facility for my tumor board and surgeon and I believe it saved my life.

Don't make decisions based on the side effects you may have from the treatment, underestimating cancer usually ends in death. So some may bring up "quality of life" which to me means nothing if you're dead. Make sure to take the steps needed to kill this shit before it kills your husband.

Use this board as much as you need for support...best wishes to you.

Eric