#97201 06-12-2009 01:54 PM | Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 6 Member | OP  Member
Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 6 | I feel the need to thank everyone in these forums and for the wealth of information on the OCF site. It was a starting point when my husband was first diagnosed with StageIV SCC of the throat (pyriform sinus) in 2005. I learned SO many helpful things here during his treatment but I guess am just too private a person to put myself out there in a forum very much. Know that I have read many many posts and topics over the last few years and there were lots of good answers here to my questions. Learning what questions to ask gave us some power too.
I thank you all for your honesty and for sharing your experiences, especially in this recurrence forum regarding end of life. It is helping me gain some perspective and strength (no I am not crazy and guilt is not good)because my husband now has hospice care at home and we are seeing definite signs of decline. Hours to weeks. There aren't any friends or family members that understand this waiting time. I can say here that I hope it is not long and you will understand that I am not being heartless.
Know that there are others out here supporting OCF and care about its members. I don't expect any responses here , I just wanted to let you regular posters know that you have made a difference to me. I am proud to support OCF and have been spreading literature and info to everyone I know.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 595 | Sorry to hear about your husband and know that we are here for you if and when you need us. You and your families are in my thoughts and prayers!! Semper-Fi Bob
Bob age 57, non smoker,non drinker, ended treatment on 11 Nov 2007 and started back to work on 29 Nov 2007. Veterans Day 2012 the Battle was lowered, folded, Taps was played and the Flag buried as I am know a 5 year survivor. Semper-FI !!!
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 216 | I am sorry to hear about your husband and understand your desire for this process to not be prolonged. We are all here if and when you need us.
CG to H with SCC BOT T4N2cM0 dx 12/19/08, teeth removed pre-tx; Erbitux & RT-done 3/12/09, PEG 2/9/09-7/14/09; ND 6/16. Pet 6/12-no mets except lymph node in neck removed on 6/16. Chyle leak,2nd surg to repair. Dilate esophagus 4/15/10. Clear PET 12/17/10
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Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,004 | Hi Fran,
We do understand why you say that, and I agree with you. Please know we are here for you.
Suzanne
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T1 SCC on right side of tongue
Age 31...27 when diagnosed
4 partial glossectomies
No chemo or radiation
Biopsy on 2/2/10-Clear
Surgery needed again...no later than April 2011
Loving life and just became a mother on 11/25/10
It's not what we CAN'T do..it's what we CAN do:)
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | Hey Fran,as the song says "you'll never walk alone"
(((((((((HUG)))))))))
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | My prayers and with you, your husband and family.
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 476 | Fran, I am sorry to hear the news of your husband. Having watched my mom die at home on hospice from pancreatic cancer, I totally understand your feelings of being ready for him to pass on. Nothing is worse than watching someone we love so much suffer. My prayers are with you and your husband.
Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 718 | So sorry, Fran. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Margaret
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C/G: Husband, 48 (at time of dx)
Dx 5/18/07 SCC, BOT, lymph node involvement. T1N2BM0. (Stage 4a, G2/3)
Tx 6/18 - 8/3/07, IMRT x 33 Cisplatin x3 (stopped after 1st dose due to hearing issues). Weekly Erbitux started 6/27/07 completed 8/6/07.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | I am sorry about what you are both going thru right now. Just keep coming back and asking questions about anything. You are both in my prayers and i am sending a couple of my angels to look after you.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | Hi there- My prayers are with you. Completely understandable that you wouldn't want someone you love to suffer any more... This is a very very difficult form of cancer.
I am so sorry that there isn't going to be a cure.
You have many people you can confide in about your emotions and thoughts here. KATE
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 49 | Prayers to you and your family are going out to you. I am so sorry to hear about your pain...we are all here to help you in any way that we can.
Donna
Caregiver to Hubby,Stage IVb, SCC to left tonsil, Mets to nodes, Tonsillectomy, Cisplatin,Taxotere,5FU x 3, IMRT 33 Rads + Carbo x 6, RND 03/09--Dx NHLymphoma 04/09, CT of chest, stom, pel--all clear, 05/09 Pet--all clear, 08/09 Pet--all clear
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Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,244 | All my thoughts are with you.
May your God walk with you..
Sunshine.. love and hugs
Helen
SCC Base of tongue, (TISN0M0) laser surgery, 10/01 and 05/03 no clear margins. Radial free flap graft to tonsil pillar, partial glossectomy, left neck dissection 08/04
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Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 6 | My husband died on June 17, at home as he requested. He had a very full and wonderful life and I can't begin to express how much I miss him. The OCF is listed in his memorial and I hope to spread more awareness and lead others to this site if they need it. Today we celebrate his life and it was Here is a link for Stevens, Festus S. http://www.kirlin-egan-butler.com/_mgxroot/page_10730.phpand I noticed in earlier posts that Patty (good1) lived very near me - I wish I had known her. Thank you for all the kind words and thoughts and the angels. It means so much to know you've been where he and I have traveled. I pray for continued health and strength for all of you. Fran | | | | | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Fran,
Sorry for you loss and thanks for sharing with us.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 199 | Fran,
So sorry to hear about your loss, but glad that as you wished, he did not suffer too long. Our thoughts and prayers are with you,
Ginny M. SCC of Left lateral tongue Dx 04/06,Surgery MDACC 05/11/06: Partial glossectomy with selective neck dissection. T1N0M0 - no radiation. Phase III clinical trial ("EPOC" trial)04/07 thru 04/08 because tests showed a 65% chance of recurrence. 10 Year Survivor!
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 718 | Fran,
I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I clicked on his link and read the obit...what a wonderful man.
How interesting that you lived near Patty (good1). You would have liked her, she had a warm heart and a soft spot for animals. Sad to lose two people to this terrible cancer in the same area so close in time.
Fran, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Margaret
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C/G: Husband, 48 (at time of dx)
Dx 5/18/07 SCC, BOT, lymph node involvement. T1N2BM0. (Stage 4a, G2/3)
Tx 6/18 - 8/3/07, IMRT x 33 Cisplatin x3 (stopped after 1st dose due to hearing issues). Weekly Erbitux started 6/27/07 completed 8/6/07.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Fran, I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. The obituary described a great person. Yur husband is now not in any more pain. Remember all the good memories and hope that they bring you some comfort in the difficult time. It was very kind to mention OCF.
Wish you had known Patty. She was truly an angel who was also a dog lover.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 96 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | | Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 96 | Fran,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what you are going through, and our husbands were the same age. I pray for strength for you and yours.
Lori
Lori, cg to H Ron, age 56.
Stage IV Oral SCC-T1N2. Tongue resected and right ND 8/05. Teeth removed, PORT, PEG, IMRT x33, Cisplatin x3. Tx ended 10/05.
Recurrence 7/08 Stage IV. Surgery 8/30/08.
2nd recur. 11/08. 2nd surgery 2/2/09.
3rd recur. 4/9/09. Erbitux wkly. 5/09-?
Ron died 6/6/09.
Lori also passed away 8/20/11, colon cancer
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Joined: Jun 2004 Posts: 155 | SO sorry for your loss. "Fes" seems to have been a wonderful man who was not only loved by you but his family and friends very much. I pray that you can find comfort in each other. Remember there is also always a place for you here if you need it.
Peace
Denise
Caregiver Husband Bob SCC tongue t2nomo Partial Glosectomy/neck disection 6/04 rad ending 9/23/04
Osteoradio-necrosis of the Mandible (ONJ) DX 6/09 Surgery 7/2/09 mandible resection/ several teeth extracted/ neck dissection NO FLAP and aggressive antibiotic therapy.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | What a beautiful obituary. My sincere condolences to you all on your loss.
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 | Dear Fran, sorry to read about your loss of Fes. You are in my thoughts..Carol
Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Fran,
My deepest sympathy to you and your family in the loss of your dear husband. He is at peace now.
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 476 | Fran, I am truly sorry for the loss of your husband. Take comfort that he is in a better place and out of pain. My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | So sorry for your loss Fran. He is in a better place without pain or sorrow.
KATE
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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