#33632 08-23-2004 02:44 AM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) |  Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 | Hi Danny, I woke at 6:00 am thinking about cancer. It scares me and depresses me at times but reading encouraging words from people like you helps a lot. I rely most on my faith to get by. You are normal, my friend.....I am thinking of you and praying for you! Love, Carol
Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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#33633 08-23-2004 04:24 AM | Joined: May 2004 Posts: 218 Gold Member (200+ posts) | | Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: May 2004 Posts: 218 | Hey wait a min. I didnt know you are a Packer fan!
You have every right to be angry then. You will be even madder when the Bears kick there butt this season:) LOL
Robert
SCC 1.6cm Right Tonsil 10/3/03, 1 Node 3cm, T1N2AM0, Tonsil Removed, Selective Neck Disection, 4 Wks Induction Chemo (Taxol,Cisplatin), 8 Weeks Chemo/Radiation (5FU,Hydroxyurea,Iressa), IMRT x 40, Treatment Complete 2/13/04.
41 Years Old At Diagnosis
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#33634 08-23-2004 10:43 AM | Joined: Apr 2003 Posts: 148 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2003 Posts: 148 | {{{{Danny Boy}}}}
When I get mad, I pull weeds. I have been on a pretty even keel lately, so if you'd like to make a therapeutic visit to Kansas...
Sincerely,
Lisa
Lisa
SCC of Tongue Stage 1 (T1,N0,M0)
partial glossectomy,modified neck dissection 4/14/03
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#33635 08-23-2004 11:05 AM | Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Danny,
You have every right to angry. The sudden depression probably is the culmination of all the bad things just piling up. You have been here for everyone else for so long. We are all here for you.
Try to do something you like to take your mind off your problems and spend some quality time with your family. Rant and rave if you want. You are human.
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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#33636 08-23-2004 11:16 AM | Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 482 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 482 | Danny, You have a right to be angry. We all do. This is a nasty disease. We can only live one day at a time, and one moment at a time. Don't waste a moment on anger or depression. That isn't what got you through the first time, and it won't help you this time, either. When I am down, I pray for the Lord to take my burdens from me and remind me of his unending love for me. He invariably does this, usually through someone close to me, a family member, fellow worker, friend, church member. Once I turn the issue over to Him, I always physically feel the burden being lifted from my shoulders and my outlook improves immeasurably. Praying to the Lord is something I do every night and it makes me feel very much more relaxed and better. You are in my prayers every night. And I know the Lord has a plan for me, and part of it is to pray for you and others on this board. Please, as much as you can, throw away this anger and let others deal with it. Then you can concentrate on what is most important to you.
Regards, Kirk Georgia
Stage IV, T1N2aM0, right tonsil primary, Tonsilectomy 11/03, 35 rad/3cisplatin chemo, right neck dissection 1/04 - 5/04.
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#33637 08-23-2004 11:40 AM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 | Well said Kirk!!!!!!!!!!!God Bless You!!!!!!!! Carol
Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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#33638 08-23-2004 03:26 PM | Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 49 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | | Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 49 | Danny, you always have a good word for those who needed it. Sometimes the reality of this thing gets to you. You will come through it and fight again. We know you are not a quitter. Nothing wrong with anger, its part of the battle. You will rise above it as you do with the beast itself.
5-02 SCC T1N1M0 Stage 3 Right Tonsil
6-02 Right Radical Neck Disection
9-03 Recurrent SCC Dx Stage 4 unknown prim
12-03 7 Chemo
12-03 36 Rad
5-04 Left Upper Lung Wedge Resection neg
7-04 Right Parotidectomy
9-04 Began IMRT
10-04 Ended IMRT
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#33639 08-24-2004 04:03 AM | Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 382 Likes: 3 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | | Platinum Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 382 Likes: 3 | Danny-
I've been on vacation camping with my grandkids and young daughter and have just read your post. We all feel as you do at times. Life on earth as we know it doesn't make sense and anger is part of it all. Know that many people you haven't met yet are praying for you and asking God to ease your burdens right now. I truly believe there is a better life out there free of desease and pain and some of us will be enjoying it sooner than later. I pray he will comfort your soul and send you peace and strength. You have been there for so many of us and we are there for you now. Hang in there! Love - Kris
SCC Stage IV left tonsil neck disection 3/02 radiation finished 6/02 chemo finished 9/02
Stage 2A left breast cancer 3/09, chemo and radiation, finished treatment 2/7/10 -Stage 2 right beast cancer 10/14 chemo and radiation
Every day is still a gift :-)
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#33640 08-24-2004 05:07 AM | Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 18 Member | | Member
Joined: Oct 2003 Posts: 18 | danny
i will be two years out of treatment in dec and depression has got me also i have pushed my wife and family away, i finally saw what i was doing and i have gotten help they put me on prozac for now and i am in cousling so maybe with gods will i havent pushed to far with the wife and for the anger only god knows how angery i can get i had all my teeth pulled before rad and i dont look like me so yes its ok to be angery just please dont push the ones that love you away they are there for you it took me nearly 2 years to see it
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#33641 08-25-2004 10:18 AM | Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 372 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 372 | Hey Danny,
Just remember you are in my thoughts and prayers everyday. I think we all feel angry and scared, whether we are the patient or caregiver. I still take Xanax when I feel overwhelming emotion coming on out of the blue...if I don't take meds I could just cry all day. I also get relief from prayers to God...we will never know why God allows this to some, but I can say I feel so much better when I try and give it all to Him.
Take care and know you are loved by so many!
Deb
Debbie - Caregiver for husband, Dan, diagnosed with tongue cancer 7/03. Partial gloss., mod. neck dissections, graft. Recurrence neck tumor 12/03. Radical left neck dissection 12/24/03-unable to get all the tumor. 8 weeks chemo/rad beginning 1/12/04.
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