#33419 05-08-2004 03:29 AM | Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 417 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) |  "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 417 | Robert
You are normal, to not fear would be abnormal.
Darrell
Stage 3, T3,N1,M0,SCC, Base of Tongue. No Surgery, Radiationx39, Chemo, Taxol & Carboplatin Weekly 8 Treatments 2004. Age 60. Recurrence 2/06, SCC, Chest & Neck (Sub clavean), Remission 8/06. Recurrence SCC 12/10/06 Chest.
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#33420 05-08-2004 03:47 AM | Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,384 Likes: 1 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,384 Likes: 1 | Robert,
I don't believe there is a shortcut around these feelings. I can tell you that with pracitice and time, you can control the fear and even begin to forget. The time you are in after treatments is perhaps worse than the time during treatments. During treatments you were fighting hard and things hurt so your mind knew you were doing something to kill the cancer. Now you are starting to feel better and there isn't antyhing concrete to hold on to. Then the mind is the thing you have to get a handle on. It takes work. Those feelings are normal and they do get better.
As for the statistics....well Tell me anyone; if you heard 90% how many would think "I only have a 10% chance of dying"? NO! we would think "my God I have ONLY a 90% chance of living"! It is human nature to think the negitive.
You can learn to control those moments when the mind zooms off with fear. When we say live in the moment that is what you need to practice live from minute to minute rather than looking into the future we can't see.
Take care
Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.
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