#32634 06-03-2002 06:52 AM | Joined: Jun 2002 Posts: 2 Member | OP  Member
Joined: Jun 2002 Posts: 2 | Hello, I'm new to the board and just needed some advice from somebody.... My name is Tom and I'm 19 years old and I have a friend, Andrew, who uses smokeless tobacco. He's only 17 and I'm really worried for him. He drinks heavily too and the other night I went to a party and he was using both. He's a really good friend of mine, but I think if I approach him about this, it will really piss him off. I'm really confused and don't know what to do!?! Actually, I know what I have to do and that is talk to him, but I don't know how to go about it....Any help would be great! Thanks for listening.. Tom  | | | 
#32635 06-03-2002 09:50 AM | Joined: Apr 2002 Posts: 52 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | | Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2002 Posts: 52 | Tom,
you are a good friend to be concerned....yes, talking is a good start. Is your friend hooked up to the internet? Maybe after talking nicely to him about your fears, you should have him check out this web site...he might be scared enough to stop after reading some of the personal stories and posts. Hopefully he will realize what a good friend you are and thank you!! Good luck, kiddo, and let us know how it goes.
Brooke
Hope is the one thing no one can take away from you!!!
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#32636 06-03-2002 11:51 AM | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 | Brooke is right. But even the best friends, or the logic of an intelligent people, sometimes cannot be enough to get someone to quit smoking or chewing. The addiction is, by design, intense, and stopping isn't easy even for those with the desire. The longer the use, the harder the quitting. Have him visit the people section of this site and read the story about Sean Marsee who died at 19 after being a teenage dipper. It happens. But he will have to want to do this himself.
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.
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#32637 06-05-2002 04:11 PM | Joined: Apr 2002 Posts: 52 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | | Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2002 Posts: 52 | Tom,
Just wondering how things are going. Did your friend read the articles and posts here? I'm just curious. You made an impression on me, I guess mainly because of your ages. I hope all is going well!
Brooke
Hope is the one thing no one can take away from you!!!
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#32638 06-05-2002 04:51 PM | Joined: Jun 2002 Posts: 2 Member | | OP Member
Joined: Jun 2002 Posts: 2 | Hey Brooke & Brian, I haven't got to talk to my friend yet, he's been away on vacation, but I plan to talk to him when he gets back....I'm sooo thankful for your support, it's good to find I can talk to people here about things. Thanks so much for your concern and I'll keep you updated as much as I am able too....Thanks so much again...bless your hearts  TOM | | |
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