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Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,260 Likes: 3 | I would assume that he is in decent health now - considering. So I would go ASAP. Hugs...
Cheryl : Irritation - 2004 BX: 6/2008 : Inflam. BX: 12/10, DX: 12/10 : SCC - LS tongue well dif. T2N1M0. 2/11 hemigloss + recon. : PND - 40 nodes - 39 clear. 3/11 - 5/11 IMRT 33 + cis x2, PEG 3/28/11 - 5/19/11 3 head, 2 chest scans - clear(fingers crossed) HPV-, No smoke, drink, or drugs, Vegan
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 6 | If you have been at your job for over one year full time you are entitled to take up to 12 weeks to care for your spouse under the FMLA. Its unpaid time but some employers will pay their employees something for some or all of the time off. Check with your HR dept to see what you are eligible to take.
If you can afford to take off, do it. You can have many happy memories of good times where your husband is still feeling pretty good. Dont delay, take that trip.
Best wishes!
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Oct 2012 Posts: 41 Contributing Member (25+ posts) | | OP Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2012 Posts: 41 | our surgeon said surgery doesn't offer him any advantage at this point. I talked about a family vacation that my husband has asked for and he told me not to wait until chemo is over (in Oct.) but to do it on his one week break. That scared me, so I asked him today if I should use my 4 weeks of remaining vacation now. He told me that he will keep us advised and that when he starts to loose engergy and take 3-4 hour naps during the day, that would be the time to take vacation. I don't know what to expect but know I don't want any regrets.
Caregiver to husband 53 SCC stage 3 soft palate 2011 Rad, recurrence tongue stage 4 2012 induction chemo, partial glossectomy surgery, cancer back left rad neck dissection 2013, more chemo, allergic to erbitux, cancer back 2014 floor of mouth and jaw, mandibulectomy scheduled 3/5/2014
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