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#158646 - 12/07/12 10:41 PM Sad news
vandypaul Offline

Registered: 04/14/12
Posts: 20
Loc: tn
My wife decided to surrender after her 25 yr battle with Crohns and her year long struggle with the oral cancer. Her battle ended Dec 3 at home .She had her sense of humor right up to Sat evening when she went into a deep sleep. Hospice came out Sun am and supplied oxygen. She had no pain during the whole ordeal. Many thanks for al your comments as we traveled the path.
Caregiver to wife with stage 4 oral cancer. Cheek and 2 lymph nodes.Diagnosed April 2012. At age 80 decided against major surgery.Currently doing 9 chemos and then 7 weeks of radiation/chemo.

#158647 - 12/07/12 10:49 PM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
julieann Offline
"Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)

Registered: 06/24/09
Posts: 875
Loc: Alabama

My heart goes out to you and there are no words that can help. You can only be happy knowing your loving wife will suffer no more from this evil demon and is in God's loving arms. She is now your Guardian Angel and will be with you forever.

Hugs from julieann
Nov 2007 SCC on right tonsil following tonsillectomy. Was smoker, QUIT. (Stage IV T2 N2b) 7 weeks radiation one day/wk chemo (carboplatin and 5-FU). Allergic to Taxol; PEG in, lost 30 lbs. TX completed January 2008. PEG out mid- 2008. PET/CT 1/17/2011;2/3/12 NEGATIVE for cancer smile

#158648 - 12/07/12 10:49 PM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
EricS Offline
Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)

Registered: 01/03/09
Posts: 1844
Loc: Idaho
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family my friend.
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.

#158649 - 12/07/12 11:00 PM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
PaulB Online   content
Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)

Registered: 07/06/12
Posts: 2866
Loc: NY
I'm very sorry for your loss, and my thoughts are with you both.
T1N2bM0 Tonsil 7x Fighter
11/09 Taxotere Cisplatin 5-FU IC Hosp 6 Months
01/11 35 IMRT 70Gy
06/11 30 HBO
08/11 RND Carotid Ligated/Alloderm PNI
08/12 RND Pec Flap, Graft, IORT 12 Gy
10/12 25 IMRT, 50Gy Taxotete Erbitux
10/13 SND
10/13 TBO/Angiograph
10/13 RND Carotid Removed IORT 10Gy
12/13 25 Proton Therapy 50Gy 6 weeks Carboplatin
11/14 All Teeth Extract 30 HBO
03/15 Sequestromy Buccal Flap ORN
09/16 Segmental Mandiblectomy Fibular Free Flap

#158656 - 12/08/12 01:20 AM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
ChristineB Online   content
Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services
Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)

Registered: 06/23/07
Posts: 9278
Loc: PA
Oh Paul, I am so sorry! My heart goes out to you in this time of sorrow. Wishing you peace to bring comfort and courage to face the days ahead and loving memories of the happier times to forever hold in your heart.
SCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44
2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07, no caregiver
Clear PET 1/08
4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I
surg 4/16/08 clr marg
215 HBO dives
3/09 teeth out, trismus
7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
2 mo extended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit
PICC line w/ IV antibiotics 8 mo
10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg
OC 3 times in 3 years
very happy to be alive smile

#158657 - 12/08/12 01:54 AM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
debandbill Offline
"Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)

Registered: 07/12/07
Posts: 939
Loc: Punta Gorda, Florida

Thank you for taking the time to come here and let us know about your wife. That way, we can honor her and also give you support at this very sad time.

I know you are relieved that she is no longer sick but also know that you will miss her dearly and particularly at this time of year, the mourning for her will be so hard.

Hugs from all us. We are so sorry,

Deb..caregiver to husband, age 63 at diagnosis, former smoker who quit in 1997.
DIAGNOSIS: 6/26/07 SCC right tonsil/BOT T4N0M0
TREATMENT START: 8/9/07 cisplatin/taxol X 7..IMRT twice daily X 31.5.
PEG OUT: 1/08
PORT OUT: 4/09
FOLLOWUP: Now only annual exams. ALL CLEAR!

#158659 - 12/08/12 02:30 AM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
itsoktoday Offline
Supporting Member (50+ posts)

Registered: 04/30/12
Posts: 60
Loc: California
My heart and warm wishes go out to you in your time of sorrow. God Bless and take care.
10/10 IV OSCC metastatic to lymph nodes. 10/10 Peg,Port,Trech. due to rad scarring cannot swallow. 9/12 Pet clean. SCC back again 11/12. Tumor attached to jugular, Rad DX left side of neck 11/19/12. No Chemo or Rads. MRI on 1/11/13 for chronic pain w/pet scan 2/15/13.

#158661 - 12/08/12 02:52 AM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
KP5 Offline
"Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 805
Loc: NY
So sorry to hear this news Paul. As Christine said, her pain and suffering is over and she is at peace, but we know this will be a hard time for you. Please know we are here for you.
Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14

#158663 - 12/08/12 03:09 AM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
Susan2992 Offline
"Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)

Registered: 01/04/06
Posts: 721
Loc: Pennsylvania

SCC R-Lateral tongue, T1N0M0
Age 47 at Dx, non-smoker, casual drinker, HPV-
Surgery: June 2005
RT: Feb-Apr 2006
HBOT: 45 in 2008; 30 in 2013
Recurrence/Surgeries: Jan & Apr 2010
Biopsy 2/2011: Moderate dysplasia
Surgery 4/2011: Mild dysplasia
Dental issues: 2013-2016

#158664 - 12/08/12 03:36 AM Re: Sad news [Re: vandypaul]
Anne-Marie Offline
Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)

Registered: 11/03/06
Posts: 2671
Loc: TN
Paul - I'm so sorry to hear of your wife's passing. What a kind and loving caregiver you have been for her. I'm sure her spirit is close to you now, helping you to soften the sadness in the days ahead.
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)

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