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Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 | Oh my goodness!!!! I never... Charm, what do you mean in the previous post when you said " HPV issues since the safety of sex after cancer is pretty straightforward." What do they say about it? Kevin and I never stopped and kissing is a must. Is this dangerous for me? By the way...just kidding about the first line!! No prudes here. Kathy
Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14
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Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | This is so cool! "What You Always Wanted to Know About Oral Cancer Related Sex But Were Afraid to Ask". Answers given in a clear, precise, informative, friendly manner with a little humor thrown in to ease the experience for any who might be a little bashful or prudish. Thank you, Charm and all who participated. 
Anne-Marie
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
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Joined: May 2012 Posts: 162 Likes: 1 | Thank you for the info on the chemical risks Charm. I figured some smart person on here would already know the answer. Re: the info on the "primer", good lord what have I started! Your "engine tuning" instructions are quite entertaining, particularly those for us women...you have cracked me up...:) P.S. I reached out tonight by email to the wife of the local couple I referenced earlier, got some info back. I don't know them well, but they heard about my husband, and all things being a small town, reached out to offer support, very nice people. She clarified their situation; he had cancer in '96, hers was in '02. Both non-smokers, only sexual partners each other have ever had. The HPV link wasn't as known back when they were being treated. That said, she's recently gotten curious, will be going back to her records to see if the tumor was HPV tested. To her knowledge, they are the only couple who have both had the same cancer. The only other family ties she's aware of is a mother and son in Georgia.
wife/caregiver to Vince, dx 4/12 Stage IV BOT HPV+ SCC, poorly diff.; T4N2cMo; U of C; Clinical trial, Everolimus; 6 wks ind. chemo (Cetuximab, Cisplatin & Taxol), 50 x IMRT, 75 gy chemorad w/5FU, Hydrea & Taxol; 5 years out, thankfully still NED
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Kathy What I meant was that it was straightforward that there is nothing wrong or dangerous about patients and caregivers having sex. Everything I've read or heard says that fear of having sex is not based on facts. As DavidCPA's post spelled out, the issue of HPV has lots of unknowns and so can't be characterized as "straightforward". As I tried to make clear in this thread, there is no indication that sex between the caregiver and the patient in a monagamous relationship causes cancer regardless of the HPV status of those two partners. I hope you and Kevin set the sheets on fire forever. Charm
65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Passed away 4-29-13
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Ana, I doubt any HPV testing was done as the scientific community has just recently (within the last 6 or so years) has started testing OC slides for the presence of the virus.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: May 2012 Posts: 162 Likes: 1 | Thanks David, I didn't know the timeframe on the HPV connection, I'll let her know as well. Thanks, Ana
wife/caregiver to Vince, dx 4/12 Stage IV BOT HPV+ SCC, poorly diff.; T4N2cMo; U of C; Clinical trial, Everolimus; 6 wks ind. chemo (Cetuximab, Cisplatin & Taxol), 50 x IMRT, 75 gy chemorad w/5FU, Hydrea & Taxol; 5 years out, thankfully still NED
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Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 805 | Charm....trying! He gets home from a 4 week hitch in Alaska tomorrow!!!!
;o)
Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14
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SCC of occult origin 1/09 (age 55)| Stage III TXN1M0 | HPV 16+, non-smoker, moderate drinker | Modified radical neck dissection 3/09 | 31 days IMRT finished 6/09 | Hit 14 years all clear in 6/23 | Radiation Fibrosis Syndrome kicked in a few years after treatment and has been progressing since | Prostate cancer diagnosis 10/18
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