Justlilomee,
Believe me.........if they had a lynching mob here, I would have been hanging from the nearest tree when I first joined!
I was a total wreck, and tended to blow off at every opportunity! Now, I guess you could accuse me of caring "too" much at times, and I apologize for past and present times when I might come off as "pushy".
I soon realized that this was somewhere I was welcomed no matter what I said (well....almost! LOL). We're like a family.
Judgement is something that may seem to come across more readily with the written word. You can't hear the cadence of voice on the forum, and I think that lead to many of my misunderstandings. I'm positive, after being a part of this community, that Gary never intentionally meant to hurt your feelings.
My husband finished rad and chemo in November of 2003. He is still cancer free after a stage III diagnosis. He has everything to live for.....but he still smokes and drinks beer like a fiend.
There is no set pattern in any of this that I can see. It is individual, and I believe that a higher power will see us through.
Love,
Mandi
