No matter where you find the help please be very careful. If someone is coming into your home, remember they are a stranger! I dont want to make you worry about anything else but this is an area where you cant be too careful.
My former job was with the phone company and believe it or not Ive seen $500+ home phone bills. Seems like some aides will accept collect calls, do *69, and make long distance phone calls while they should be caring for your loved one. Of course just about everyone now has cell phones and unlimited everything. You still need to use caution. Think of your cable, they can rent movies right from most cable boxes. This is something else that can get run up rather quickly. By the time you get the bills, the aide will be long gone. Your home could be robbed. Your husband may not be cared for. References can be too easily faked. There are so many bad people who are looking to take advantage of others.
Going thru an agency is better than hiring someone you do not know. I like Maria's idea of asking at the church. There may be some people who wouldnt mind coming one day per week and lending a hand. Maybe friends or relatives know someone in the medical field who would help you. Word of mouth is usually a good way to get someone reliable.
I wish you all the best with everything you are going thru.
SCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44
2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07, no caregiver
Clear PET 1/08
4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I
surg 4/16/08 clr marg
215 HBO dives
3/09 teeth out, trismus
7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
2 mo extended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit
PICC line w/ IV antibiotics 8 mo
10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg
OC 3 times in 3 years
very happy to be alive