i didn't know where to introduce myself either so i just found the topic that matched what i was feeling yesterday. however i am the caregiver and it has been an expierence. there are good days and there are real bad ones. i am in the program and so is my partner. i will have 15 yrs in june and she will have 4 on 5/31. thank God for the fellowships we attend. i am so glad i found this site yes some things i have read made things worse and some have made things better one thing is for sure that i am not alone in what i feel. she is still working and has had surgery in march and is now in the third week of radiation.