Hi Missy, my father also had partial glossectomy 2 years back. ENT had used his remaining tongue to reconstruct, i.e. they folded it to make it a full tongue, shorter in length though.

It takes a while to adjust but he is fully functional without any significant speaking and eating issues.

Depending on your husband's case, they will try to reconstruct as much as possible to retain functionality.

Wish you and your husband all the best for surgery. As Christine mentioned, get him all his favorites to eat now as it will take really long to get back in track.

Hi Missy and welcome to OCF!! Without a doubt you have found the best site for information and support. I would also suggest for maybe your husband to join and talk to other patients/survivors. It really is what changed recovery for me and my outlook in general.

Like Eric said...it's ok to be scared. I think it's good to be scared actually....I wasn't in the beginning (not sure why) and it hit me about 2 years later and it wasn't easy.

Please know there are a lot of people here just waiting to help and support you through this journey.

Mine is a different situation I believe. My spouse deserted me just over a year ago for a younger woman. We are only separated. Nothing legal. Had No previous warning. I thought we had a good marriage, no problems that I knew of. She was a sort of family member in my home almost daily. Since then I have tried to keep tabs on him, because he was already disabled with a spine injury from 40 yrs ago and barely can walk. Not in the best of health when he left. The other woman is staying with him out of the guilt she has, for seducing him and getting him to leave me,and the guilt he puts on her for giving everything up to leave with her. She is not the caregiver type. Now he found out the beginning of July he had I believe ( he doesn't talk to me since he left) Mandibular Neoplasm stage 2. He had 3/4 of his lower jaw bone removed, and reconstructed 7/16 and his teeth. I really don't know his prognosis, or anything past the surgery. He still has a trach, oxygen, and they put his g tube in Fri. 7/26. He may not get to go home, but to a care facility, because of his other health problems. He allowed me to go see him twice, but she started telling the nurses and him lies. So I said I wouldn't go back. So now I'm worried sick,I still love him dearly, and worry about him all the time. And not sure if he's having to go thru radiation and/or chemo after the mouth and jaw heal or what. Can anyone who has possibly gone thru this fill me in on what he has in store ahead of him yet? Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

Hi Donswife,

I'm sure there are members who may be able to help you out.

You should start your own topic (thread) though. This thread was started by Missy and most of the responses/comments will be directed to her. If you have your own thread the comments will be for you.

Just go to the forum that best fits your topic and go "topic options-new topic"

donswife: I'm so sorry for the difficult place you are in. You should probably start your own post on this so that any replies could be directed to you. It sounds to me like you could use some legal advice before you do anything legal, -especially if your spouse is in serious condition and something should happen to him. Also, I do not have a legal background, but as his legal wife, wouldn't you be able to get information from his doctor? You could direct your spouse to OCF so he or his partner could get some helpful advice in his recovery. The prospect of divorce is traumatic for many. I went to a Divorce Recovery class which helped me a lot. I hope things get easier for you.