| | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) |  Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | I know I fought my wife every step of the way, from refusing to get Dx'ed and all through Tx. I remember one instance where I was badly in need of a hospital stay and I was refusing to go because I wanted to watch a college FB game on TV that afternoon and I was afraid I would either miss it or even worse be put in a semi private room with someone already watching Judge Judy so my wife finally having enough of my butt looked at me and said "ALL RIGHT THEN JUST LIE THERE AND DIE!!!" and with that she walked out of the room. A few seconds later I relented. I remember one doctor telling my wife that I was 24 hours from my kidneys shutting down...OK so she got lucky.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 216 | Your wife is a saint!!! I've read some of your stories on here! LOL I've tried that tact and have been unsuccessful. If I argue with him, he just gets worse, and if I don't say anything then he just does what he wants which is nothing. Frankly there are days I could just get in the car and drive (south since I'm sick of the snow - 12" a couple days ago and now anywhere from 4-9 this week). I'm considering life as a beach bum because I've just about had it. Even used the ole line "if I said that to you, how would you feel??" But that's different. Personally, I think his thyroid is totally screwed up - mood changes, depression, cold, etc. then fine for awhile and then back to the Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde routine. His last TSH was in September and was .46 and he's due now for a TSH, T3 and T4. We'll see.
CG to H with SCC BOT T4N2cM0 dx 12/19/08, teeth removed pre-tx; Erbitux & RT-done 3/12/09, PEG 2/9/09-7/14/09; ND 6/16. Pet 6/12-no mets except lymph node in neck removed on 6/16. Chyle leak,2nd surg to repair. Dilate esophagus 4/15/10. Clear PET 12/17/10
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Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 | try taking the good batteries out of the remote and replacing them with dead ones. "no honey, we dont have any batteries but if u get up and go, i will stop by the store and get some". sometimes we have to resort to mean and nasty tactics, but its all for their own good 
Teresa
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CG to ANDY. Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC)
T2N2cMxG4 stage 4. 43 @ dx 8/31/09
tx 9/21/09-11/06/09 cispatin/docetaxel/5-FU X3
PORT 9/9/09, PEG 12/07/09
35 IMRT-1/wk carbo 11/30/09-2/3/10
tx stopped due to complications
IMRT BOOST 3/08-3/12/10
PET 4/12/10 CLEAR!
PEG out 4/14/10
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Whoooooa, that's hitting way below the belt and I thought my wife was cruel and unusual!!
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 | id like to think of it more as creative caretaking 
Teresa
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CG to ANDY. Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC)
T2N2cMxG4 stage 4. 43 @ dx 8/31/09
tx 9/21/09-11/06/09 cispatin/docetaxel/5-FU X3
PORT 9/9/09, PEG 12/07/09
35 IMRT-1/wk carbo 11/30/09-2/3/10
tx stopped due to complications
IMRT BOOST 3/08-3/12/10
PET 4/12/10 CLEAR!
PEG out 4/14/10
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Yeah and I'm sure Hannibal Lecter came up with some catchy phases to describe his trade!!
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 | u guys and ur remote...priceless!
Teresa
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CG to ANDY. Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC)
T2N2cMxG4 stage 4. 43 @ dx 8/31/09
tx 9/21/09-11/06/09 cispatin/docetaxel/5-FU X3
PORT 9/9/09, PEG 12/07/09
35 IMRT-1/wk carbo 11/30/09-2/3/10
tx stopped due to complications
IMRT BOOST 3/08-3/12/10
PET 4/12/10 CLEAR!
PEG out 4/14/10
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Excuse me, my wife has a sign on her desk that reads, "The one with the most shoes when she dies WINS" and believe me she has to be a front runner in that race.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
| | | | | Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | | Platinum Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 | shoes...where...i want some! yeah its pretty dangerous to get in my way when there is a shoe sale
Teresa
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CG to ANDY. Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC)
T2N2cMxG4 stage 4. 43 @ dx 8/31/09
tx 9/21/09-11/06/09 cispatin/docetaxel/5-FU X3
PORT 9/9/09, PEG 12/07/09
35 IMRT-1/wk carbo 11/30/09-2/3/10
tx stopped due to complications
IMRT BOOST 3/08-3/12/10
PET 4/12/10 CLEAR!
PEG out 4/14/10
| | | | | Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 216 Gold Member (200+ posts) | | OP Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 216 | A quick update on my pig headed h...he had the esophageal dilation today...doing well after a few breathing problems due to the anesthetic. Only one small stricture which was easily cleared. No sign of cancer in view during procedure! Now to set an appt with an endocrinologist...surgeon says do it, too much stuff going on that needs checked. Guess I have to quit calling him pig headed now....at least for awhile 
CG to H with SCC BOT T4N2cM0 dx 12/19/08, teeth removed pre-tx; Erbitux & RT-done 3/12/09, PEG 2/9/09-7/14/09; ND 6/16. Pet 6/12-no mets except lymph node in neck removed on 6/16. Chyle leak,2nd surg to repair. Dilate esophagus 4/15/10. Clear PET 12/17/10
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