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Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 147 | Met with the bone Dr. last Monday - Jim's hip and leg are fractured; he is scheduled for a partial hip replacement on the 2nd or 3rd....he will let them know as he has a lot to do on his list. They won't do a full hip replacement because they figure he wouldn't make it at all - they are hoping that the partial will at least give him some relief and maybe get away from the crutch. I learned thru a friend of his that he sent a mass e-mail to all his guy friends, saying bye and hoping that he wouldn't make it off the table - he hasn't told me that of course...I think he will be fine. We are having a huge party next Saturday - then off the next week to surgery....the stress is kickin' me...everyone keeps telling me to take time for me - how selfish - Jim is my time for me....I wish this would just go away...
Hugs to all
Paula
Caregiver to Husband 50 yrs.young-non smoker/non-drinker; Stage IV - all treatments stopped August 2009
Lost the battle November 23, 2010
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | You and Jim have really been thru it, and then some. I am glad to hear you have a party planned - those are the special times that make life worthwhile. I know you think that being with Jim is your time for you, but maybe some other caregivers can weigh in here - is it possible that by taking some time away for yourself (manicure / pedicure ???) that you might come back to deal with "everything" feeling more refreshed which would benefit both of you?
Keeping you guys in my prayers. I hate this disease. It really sucks.
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Feb 2009 Posts: 88 | Paula,
So sorry to hear about Jim, you're doing the right thing spending time together. I will keep you both in my prayers this isn't an easy road. God bless you both.
Bonnie
CG to daughter Brandy age 31 initial dx 10/06
SCC T4N0M0 with bone invasion upper maxillary
Surgery 10/06
CT's clear for 2 years
2nd recurrence - Laser surgery 1/09 dx
Tumor board - No surgery to invasive for QOL
35 IMRT 3/30/09 Completed 5/15/09
8 tx Erbitux 3/24/09 Completed 5/6/09
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Joined: May 2007 Posts: 132 | Paula,
As someone who is going through a tough time with this disease I'm sure that you are doing the right thing by spending as much time with Jim as possible. I know that while I may sometimes make life hell for my husband there is no-one else who I feel as comfortable and as safe with. Jim is lucky to have you! Enjoy the party on Saturday and all the best for Jim's surgery.
Sue
55 y/o
SCC LL Tongue 3/27/07
Part. mandibulectomy 9/2/07
Left ND 5/12/08
RT/Chemo
Rec LL Tongue 07/09
Part gloss 8/5 & 8/25
Surg 10/28/09 re mets to R neck & L jaw
RT & Chemo finished 12/22/09
PEG fitted 05/06/10
L buccal SCC 10/10
freeflap (forearm)surgery 2/28/11 L buccal and gingiva
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 595 | Enjoy the Party and pass on my best wishes to Jim!!! Semper-Fi Bob
Bob age 57, non smoker,non drinker, ended treatment on 11 Nov 2007 and started back to work on 29 Nov 2007. Veterans Day 2012 the Battle was lowered, folded, Taps was played and the Flag buried as I am know a 5 year survivor. Semper-FI !!!
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Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 209 | I am sorry for all you are going through.
I do agree with Pandora that time for yourself may refresh you and Jim. I don't think this is selfish, it a way to show respect to life. A spiritual uplift.
Of course, I'm am all for the mani-pedicure, however, even 20 minutes browsing the local drug store and being around other shoppers may prove to be enough. Mabey a new lipstick for the party?
Ginny, spouse of MikeG. SSC BOT T2N1M0 Stage III, Dx 06/27/06 at age 52, Tx 07/31/06 through 09/28/06 Chemo Cisplatin & 5FU x2, Radiation x42. Cancer free and doing well.
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