SAD NEWS - 12-20-2002 02:15 AM
HI!EVERYBODYI'M SORRY TO INFORM YOU MY HUSBAND PHIL HAS LOST HIS BATTLE OF ORAL CANCER.HE PASSED AWAY ON 12/6.
THE STORY STARTED LAST YEAR AND IT BECAME WORSE AS TIME WENT ON.ON 12/3 I STARTED TO NOTICE THAT HIS FACE HAD BECOME VERY SWOLLEN (EDEMA) WHICH HE HAD BEFORE BECAUSE HE HAD TROUBLE LAYING DWN TO SLEEP, SO I THOUGHT THIS TOO WOULD PASS.HE STARTED BECOMING VERY INCOHERENT THEN ON 12/6 IN THE MORNING I FOUND HIM UNCONSCIENCE ON THE BATHROOM FLOOR.I CALLED HIS DR AND THEY TOLD ME TO CALL RESCUE AND BRING HIM TO THE ER.WHEN WE ARRIVED AT THE ER THEY TOOK BLOOD,AND THE RESULTS SHOWED VERY LG DEPOSITS OF CALCIUM WHICH THEY SAID WAS FROM THE CANCER.THEY THEN TOOK HIM FOR XRAYS AND RETURNED HIM TO THE ER.I WENT HOME TO GET HIM PJ'S,WHEN I GOT BACK HIS ONCOLOGISTS CALLED AND TOLD ME THAT SHE THOUGHT THAT THE CANCER WAS TERMINAL AND THAT HE ONLY HAD 2-3 MNTHS TO LIVE, AND TO CONSIDER HOSPICE CARE AT HOME OR AT A FACILITY.THEY THEN TOOK HIM TO CT SCAN AND I WENT OUTSIDE TO GET SOME AIR. THE NURSE SAID THE DR WANTED TO TALK TO ME, HE SAID YOUR HUSBAND EXPIRED IN THE CT SCAN HIS HEART STOPPED.HE SAID THAT THE CT SCAN SHOWED THAT THE CANCER HAD SPREAD TO HIS THROAT, DWN INTO HIS LUNGS, AND IN HIS BONES.THIS WORSE THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE. MY HUSBAND, BEST FRIEND, LOVER AND SOUL MATE LEFT THE EARTH.I NOW FEEL LIKE MY LIFE IS OVER.
WHAT I AM CONFUSED ABT IS IN AUG AFTER THE SURGERY THE PET SCAN CAME BACK CLEAR, THE DR SAID HE WAS CANCER FREE FOR NOW,AND NOW HE IS DEAD. HOW COULD IT HAVE SPREAD ALL OVER SO FAST.HAS ANYONE EVER HEARD OF THIS BEFORE.I'M THINKING THAT THEY DID THE SURGERY REMOVED HIS TONGUE PUT HIM THROUGH SO MUCH WHEN THEY ALREADY KNEW HE COULDN'T BE CURED.
TO MAKE MATTER WORSE HE WASN'T DEAD 1 HR AND HIS MOTHER WAS ASKING ME WHO'S NAME WAS ON THE DEED TO OUR HSE.THEN THEY OFFERED TO PAY FOR SOME OF THE FUNERAL. MY MOTHER IN LAW CALLED ME ON MON AND SAID"I'M FINANCIALLY STRAPPED, I CAN'T HELP YOU GOOD LUCK KIDDO."HIS FAMILY TORTURED HIM THE WHOLE TIME HE WAS SICK.NOW THIS
WELL, I THANK EVERYBODY ON HERE FOR THE SUPPORT WHEN I NEEDED IT.AND PERIODICALLY I WILL COME BACK TO CHAT. BUT, I PROBABLY NEED A LITTLE TIME TO HEAL
THANKS AGAIN
THE STORY STARTED LAST YEAR AND IT BECAME WORSE AS TIME WENT ON.ON 12/3 I STARTED TO NOTICE THAT HIS FACE HAD BECOME VERY SWOLLEN (EDEMA) WHICH HE HAD BEFORE BECAUSE HE HAD TROUBLE LAYING DWN TO SLEEP, SO I THOUGHT THIS TOO WOULD PASS.HE STARTED BECOMING VERY INCOHERENT THEN ON 12/6 IN THE MORNING I FOUND HIM UNCONSCIENCE ON THE BATHROOM FLOOR.I CALLED HIS DR AND THEY TOLD ME TO CALL RESCUE AND BRING HIM TO THE ER.WHEN WE ARRIVED AT THE ER THEY TOOK BLOOD,AND THE RESULTS SHOWED VERY LG DEPOSITS OF CALCIUM WHICH THEY SAID WAS FROM THE CANCER.THEY THEN TOOK HIM FOR XRAYS AND RETURNED HIM TO THE ER.I WENT HOME TO GET HIM PJ'S,WHEN I GOT BACK HIS ONCOLOGISTS CALLED AND TOLD ME THAT SHE THOUGHT THAT THE CANCER WAS TERMINAL AND THAT HE ONLY HAD 2-3 MNTHS TO LIVE, AND TO CONSIDER HOSPICE CARE AT HOME OR AT A FACILITY.THEY THEN TOOK HIM TO CT SCAN AND I WENT OUTSIDE TO GET SOME AIR. THE NURSE SAID THE DR WANTED TO TALK TO ME, HE SAID YOUR HUSBAND EXPIRED IN THE CT SCAN HIS HEART STOPPED.HE SAID THAT THE CT SCAN SHOWED THAT THE CANCER HAD SPREAD TO HIS THROAT, DWN INTO HIS LUNGS, AND IN HIS BONES.THIS WORSE THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE. MY HUSBAND, BEST FRIEND, LOVER AND SOUL MATE LEFT THE EARTH.I NOW FEEL LIKE MY LIFE IS OVER.
WHAT I AM CONFUSED ABT IS IN AUG AFTER THE SURGERY THE PET SCAN CAME BACK CLEAR, THE DR SAID HE WAS CANCER FREE FOR NOW,AND NOW HE IS DEAD. HOW COULD IT HAVE SPREAD ALL OVER SO FAST.HAS ANYONE EVER HEARD OF THIS BEFORE.I'M THINKING THAT THEY DID THE SURGERY REMOVED HIS TONGUE PUT HIM THROUGH SO MUCH WHEN THEY ALREADY KNEW HE COULDN'T BE CURED.
TO MAKE MATTER WORSE HE WASN'T DEAD 1 HR AND HIS MOTHER WAS ASKING ME WHO'S NAME WAS ON THE DEED TO OUR HSE.THEN THEY OFFERED TO PAY FOR SOME OF THE FUNERAL. MY MOTHER IN LAW CALLED ME ON MON AND SAID"I'M FINANCIALLY STRAPPED, I CAN'T HELP YOU GOOD LUCK KIDDO."HIS FAMILY TORTURED HIM THE WHOLE TIME HE WAS SICK.NOW THIS
WELL, I THANK EVERYBODY ON HERE FOR THE SUPPORT WHEN I NEEDED IT.AND PERIODICALLY I WILL COME BACK TO CHAT. BUT, I PROBABLY NEED A LITTLE TIME TO HEAL
THANKS AGAIN
having a clue that it was spreading with all the technology and tests they put out there. My husband is going in for a Biopsy tomorrow and they do not know if it is radiation scars or more tumors. His Pet scan was still lit up and they saw more rounded tumors that appeared to be suspect so really do not know what they will find. We are hoping for the best. He had four tests and mri and ctscans and they all came back that they should do a biopsy so the ENT will be performing it. Please take care and heal real soon.