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Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 31 | It's 2pm California time, 5pm NY time and 10pm UK time 
Mum - sick as a dog, see her sig.
Dad - diagnosed with throat cancer late 2007.
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Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 82 | I've been out of pocket this past week and am very sorry to hear about your mother; as you say, she's probably having a brandy and looking forward to Saturday's gathering. Words are simply inadequate...Godspeed.
John - Proud to be here...
Hemiglossectomy 08/02/07, 4 lower molars extracted prior to 6 weeks IMRT 09/10/07-10/19/07, SCC w/met to L neck lymph nodes, rad only, no ND. PEG 10/26/07-02/05/08.
"We're all in the same boat in a stormy sea, therefore we owe one another a terrible loyalty."
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Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 6 | To Sue and your family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I have been reading posts for a long time and was always inspired by your mother's writings to others. She had insights without preaching. I finally got some courage to put myself out there and post my thoughts & fears. Brenda took the time to respond on 1/29 without talking at all about herself- I've been thinking about her words ever since (and now even more)
Here is what she wrote:
"Don't focus on the 'should have done' stuff.
Start NOW making a list of what you HAVE done--you'll be amazed at how long, full and important it is--working, bringing up kids, being a spouse, looking after a house, giving support and comfort to other people in times of need--includes small child with scraped knee!--to ringing/visiting parents or even grandparents."
I see now that she had a long, full and important list of her own. My thoughts are with you.
Fran | | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | OP Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | THat sure is Brenda. Always looking out for us. She was one of a kind and very caring.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Sue, Iknew what time you meant, but my mind is visiting somewhere it seems. Sorry about not putting the time down the right way.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: May 2007 Posts: 231 | I am so sorry to hear of Brendas passing. I dont get on here as much as I used to and when I posted the other day I didnt even look at the rest of the board. Brenda was a great lady who helped me through a lot and I will miss her deeply.
May the good Lord be with her family at this time of grieving.
Billy
Dx Mar 07 with Base Of Tongue Stage IV. IMRT 35x with 3 doses Cysplatin ran concurrent. Tx ended May 31,07. Left and right node involved. Radical neck disection 7/18/07
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | I wore a hot pink shirt SAturday in remembrance. I thin k that was a beautiful idea.
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Brenda was a wonderful, kind, courageous woman. I have delayed in posting my condolences to Branda's family, it has been difficult for me to put into words my saddness on her passing. She was truly amazing facing such adversity with wit and dignity. Brenda will be missed by many. Her encouraging words will live on.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | | Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 735 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 735 | I went to an Odyssey of the Mind Competition on Sat ... And in the one Skit ( put on by kids ) the kid spoke in a british accent... It brought tears to my eyes as it reminded me of Brenda, She was an amazing woman !! and I think of her daily in my work with children with Autsim , her and I spoke about this before I made my decision to go back as this is what we both do .
I will miss her dearly , daily and forever ........
Shar
Sharlee
35 year old Female Non smoker, very occasional alcohol ..Scc T1N0M0,partial glossectomy and left neck disection ,2/9/07 No rad deemed ness. 4/16 tonsillectomy ..Trimengenial Neuralga due to surgery
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