#69632 02-10-2008 04:56 PM | Joined: May 2006 Posts: 69 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | OP  Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 69 | Hello All,
I haven't been around .. my mom passed away on Jan 31, 2008. She collapsed at home on Jan 24 and was taken to the hospital - where she was found to be diabetic. Sometime in the hospital she caught an infection (unknown) in her lungs, and by Jan 28 had a lot of trouble breathing and increased heart rate. With her weakened state and the cancer in her lungs she had a cardiac arrest and her heart give out in the early morning of Jan 31,2008.
What more is there to say, my mom wanted to live, she still had the fight in her but in the end her mind was strong than her body. We had a lot of hopes, mom and i .. .. she didnt want me to give up and i didnt want her to give up..
you always have hope, u always hope things will turn out for the best..
I want to thank everyone on the board .. I think cancer is one of those unknowns .. theres a lot we know but theres a lot we still have yet to learn ..
I will continue to learn and gain knowledge about cancer, maybe one day i can make a difference and help out others like my mom, and other mothers and families.
I got to spend a lot of time with mom, we had a lot of memoriable moments, .. i dont know if life will ever be the same, .. its like life wasnt normal before .. now life wont ever be the previous normal i used to know ..
I want to thank everyone again, for their support, knowledge and faith.
H
the world brought me to my knees...
Update: Feb 10/08: Mom passed away on Jan 31,08 - infection (unknown) in her lungs with her weakened immune system resulted in cardiac arrest - T2NO SCC of tongue surgery 6/30/06, SCC left neck and lungs detected Sept 07, 7 weeks rad/3 rounds chemo had no effect.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 221 | Herson,
I'm so sorry.
Your mother was lucky to have a son as devoted as you. It says a lot about the person she was to have raised a son who cared as much as you.
May the memories bring you comfort during this difficult time.
Joy
CG to Father, 75 yo with SCC of the mouth; upper maxillectomy and neck diss. performed on 5/23/07. Father also suffered heart attack during surgery and now has CHF. RT complete on 8/28/07. Cancer back 11/27/07. RT and Chemo to start on 12/17. Cancer back 6/17/08. Finally at rest 08/08/08.
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Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 598 | Herson -- my deepest sympathies. True, life will never be exactly the same, but we somehow manage to get through the pain, cherish the memories and move on. Tomorrow is the 7 year anniversary of my father's death from lung cancer. Diagnosed in January, died 2/11/2001. His father and his grandfather also died on February 11.
So allow yourself to grieve, but don't let grief dim the memories. Those you will cherish with increasing fervor with each passing day. And while life is not exactly the same, we somehow find new opportunities and challenges to make it all worthwhile. I'm sure you will take advantage of yours with the things your mother taught you. That is the ongoing gift that parents provide.
Again, my deepest sympathy.
Jeff
SCC Right BOT Dx 3/28/2007
T2N2a M0G1,Stage IVa
Bilateral Neck Dissection 4/11/2007
39 x IMRT, 8 x Cisplatin Ended 7/11/07
Complete response to treatment so far!!
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Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 2,019 | Herson, I am so sorry you lost your mother. I know your love and concern for her through her fight must have meant so much to her. I'm glad you got to spend a lot of time with her and have such good memories. I hope you have people around you who will supprt you in your grief.
Life is never the same after you lose a parent. I lost my father four months ago and my life is not the same without him in the world. But I also feel he is still with me in my heart and in the way I see and react to things. Our parents never really leave us I believe.
My thoughts are with you.
Nelie
SCC(T2N0M0) part.glossectomy & neck dissect 2/9/05 & 2/25/05.33 IMRT(66 Gy),2 Cisplatin ended 06/03/05.Stage I breast cancer treated 2/05-11/05.Surgery to remove esophageal stricture 07/06, still having dilatations to keep esophagus open.Dysphagia. "When you're going through hell, keep going"
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Herson... I am so sorry for your Mother's death. I can't add anything to what Jeff & Nelie said except you are in my prayers. It seems the Lord has our time allotment set and takes us when it's time.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Herson,
You were a good Son and I'm sure your memories will keep her life alive inside you forever.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 794 | Herson,
Just read this post after sitting and reading all my replies on mine....thank you for being who you are and sharing that with me.
You are very special. I'll be thinking of you.
D
Donna
CG to Mom, dx 4/25/07 with tongue cancer,T3N0,tx began 7/6/07, 31 tx's of IMRT, 8 cycles of Erbitux. Brachytherapy, surgery, left neck dissection and temp trach placed all on 9/17/07, trach removed 10/17/07. ORN of jaw, late effect of radiation symptoms. **lost my beautiful mother on 5/5/11.
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | I am sorry for your loss herson,but sometimes when we have a problem that seems to big to overcome,nature has a way of taking decisions out of our hands.Your Mum is at peace now and pain free,so be thankful for that even though your loss feels too much too bear right now.
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Herson, I am so sorry for your loss but Liz may be right. Please accept my deepest sympathies to you and your family. Keep a picture of her nearby and remember all the fun times you had together to help lessen your grief.
Take care,
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 790 | Herson-
The strength of a bond between mother and child is sooo so strong and special. When my mom was sick and passed away I felt this so intensely. It made me so so very sad but it also made me realize that it was there and how special it is and how much I want to have it with a daughter or son one day. Take comfort in this knowledge.
Thinking of you- I know this is an incredibly difficult time. I miss my mom every day but I find that she is with me everyday too. I'm constantly reminded of her influence in my sense of humor and all the joys of life that she TAUGHT me to appreciate. When a mom does thier job right there really is no one more special and influencial in ones life. They give us life literally and also show us all that is precious and special in this life too.
I'm so sorry you won't have more time to share with her on this earth but you have tons of amazing memories so take comfort in that and honor her memory every day!
Love, Miss Kate
Last edited by misskate; 02-13-2008 09:18 AM.
Tongue Cancer T2 N0 M0 /
Total Glossectomy Due to Location of Tumor
Finished all treatments May 25 2007
Surviving!!!
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