Sammy I am sorry you are losing your husband and my heart goes out to you. My husband lost his battle with oral cancer Jan. 17th. I was able to keep him at home and comfortable. He had a very peaceful death in his own bed, as he would have wanted it. I second everything Gary has said, talking about important things if he is still able, making sure all legal and financial issues are in order, get palliative care involved as soon as possible. Palliative care can begin as soon as curative treatment is no longer an option no matter how much longer the person is expected to live. A palliative care specialist should be able to anticipate the patients needs as the disease progresses with their knowledge of the usual outcomes for the various types of cancer and put the proper supports in place. They should be easy for you to reach when needed. You need to make your medical team aware of any and all symptoms so that they can be dealt with. I was a palliative care nurse for 26 years and I know that most symptoms can be alleviated with the medications available today. Dilirium, confusion & hallucinations can occur near the end of life and there are sedations available to control this. Congestion (death rattle) has been mentioned and can be minimized if not eliminated with medication. Surround yourself with a strong care team and friends and family who may be willing to help ease the burden on you. If you can accept death as the final stage of life, something we can all expect, it somehow does not feel so terrible. I miss my husband very much but I could not wish him back to a life he found unbearable. I wish I could send you a basket full of strength and courage to help you over the next weeks.