#5877 08-21-2005 04:40 PM | Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 11 Member |  Member
Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 11 | Tonya, I think that is awesome that you all could be there by his side praying during his last moments. My Grandpa went that way - I couldn't be there but the rest of the family was and I was glad for that. He had pancreatic (sp) cancer. | | |
#5878 08-22-2005 05:48 AM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 | Tonya, we cry because we are human. You miss David and I don't blame you for the tears. I smiled though, when I read the "thumbs up" signal from above. God Bless you, you were an awesome caregiver. Love, Carol
Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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#5879 09-08-2005 06:13 AM | Joined: Sep 2004 Posts: 153 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | OP Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2004 Posts: 153 | David's 33rd birthday would have been yesterday. In honor of his special day my family took his wife and little girl fishing, enjoyed a cookout and visited his grave afterwards. His wife and little girl made a birthday cake and the little one blew out the candles. His little girl found a baby horned toad - probably 1 1/4 inches long - just as we stepped out of the vehicle. She loves horned toads. I like to think her Daddy scurred him over there for her to find. My sister's girls planted a rose bush and made birthday cards, tied them to a balloon and sent them to heaven.
We are still celebrating David, still loving him and still missing him. I know this message has no question or valuable information, I just wanted to share it with you, my friends.
May this find you all in good health,
Tonya
Sister of 32 year-old oral cancer victim. Our battle is over but the war rages on. My brother passed July 26, 2005. He was a smokeless tobacco user.
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#5880 09-08-2005 06:42 AM | Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,163 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,163 | Dear Tonya,
Thanks for sharing Davids birthday with us. It was touching to me. I loved the ballons and cards sent to heaven. May god bless you and your family. You set the bar quite high for caregivers. Grieve as long as you want. That part is different for each person. Only you know
when it's time to move on and this doesn't mean forgrtting david. He will always be in your heart as well as ours.
Love Ya, Danny Boy
Daniel Bogan DX 7/16/03 Right tonsil,SCC T4NOMO. right side neck disection, IMRT Radiation x 33.
Recurrance in June 05 in right tonsil area. Now receiving palliative chemo (Erbitux) starting 3/9/06
Our good friend and loved member of the forum has passed away RIP Dannyboy 7-16-2006
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#5881 09-08-2005 07:35 AM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,116 | Tonya, Thanks for sharing with us. God Bless you and David's family. Love, Carol
Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---
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#5882 09-08-2005 08:40 AM | Joined: Oct 2002 Posts: 546 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Oct 2002 Posts: 546 | Tonya, You are wrong. Your post does have valuable information. It helps people to know that, painful though it may be, life does go on. Sharing the way that you and your family have chosen to remember David and honor his life is very much needed and appreciated on this forum. Perhaps it can help put into perspective what is important and what is not. You may have missed the recent squabbles (actually I missed most of it, but I did come back to the forum in time to catch the tail end of it), but posts like yours are important. Thank you so much for sharing. Rainbows & hugs,  Rosie
Was primary caregiver to my daughter Heather who had stage IV base of tongue SCC w/ primary recurrence. Original diagnosis August 21st, 2002. Primary recurrence March 18th, 2003. Died October 6th, 2003.
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#5883 09-08-2005 10:27 AM | Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Tonya,
That was beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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#5884 09-08-2005 12:35 PM | Joined: May 2003 Posts: 928 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: May 2003 Posts: 928 | Tonya,
What a lucky litle girl to have an aunt who cares so much.
Thanks for sharing this with us.
Marica
Caregiver to husband Pete, Dx 4/03 SCC Base of Tongue Stage IV. Chemo /Rad no surgery. Treatment finished 8/03. Doing great!
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