Dear Debbie,
Thank you so much for your imput.I learned one valuable thing from your post!I assumed since my father in law had numerous lymph nodes to be removed on Friday,I didn't relize that they may not be malignant!!!They gives me more hope.I have another question to present to all of you that have gone through surgery with your loved ones.How was it the days prior to surgery?My father in law is a wreck!!He is not eating well or sleeping well.Are there any words of wisdom that any of you have?

Unfortunately, Patti, I can't answer any of your questions, but I can validate one.

Dan called me a week ago, and after a few seconds, I was able to understand him totally. Yes, at first, I assumed he was a solicitor! LOL But after realizing it wasn't, and that he had the right person on the line, we were able to correspond quite easily.

Mandi

Mandi,
I'm sorry for not replying in a timely manner.I really enjoyed your post it was the first good chuckle I've had in months.

Take care and good health to you and your family,
Patty

Morning, first let me tell you, Frank had his entire lower jaw, tongue, etc, etc, removed two years ago and rebuilt......the opinion was that he would be able to eat again, unfortunated, other cancer occured so he still has a feeding tube, and can`t talk, it`s changed our lives but it saved his, right now he`s finishing up rad for tumor in his sinus..........Depression and anxiety go hand in hand with what you are all going through. Is you father taking anything for depression or anxiety ? If not, I really would suggest it. I`m not even the one with cancer and I dropped to 88lbs, and also am in therapy.......oral cancer is devastating so use all the resourses you can. we think of ourselves by what we see in the mirror, and when that`s going to change I can`t only imagine how people feel........Hang in there, you`ve come to the right place..........Lots of Prayers Your Way, Dee

Hi Dee,

Thank you for your reply.It sounds like your husband has pretty much gone through it all.This is such a nerve racking time and his sugery isn't until tomorrow.I understand what you mean about the need for antidepressants.The only things they have given him so far are pain meds.He just sits there some days and wrings his hands because he just doesn't know what else to do.He has been kept in a holding pattern since 10/4 when he received the "official diagnosis",they just deceided about 2 weeks ago that it was operable.I will let you all know how he does with the surgery.Thank you for your time and interest.