Thanks, all, for the feedback. You did, indeed, keep me out of caregiver trouble. :-)
Last week was a really rough week, thrush hit on Saturday and didn't clear up until Thursday. And, his pain throughout the week was growing exponentially. It's hard to sit by and watch someone be in so much discomfort.
Based on the advice here, I just maintained the base level of "pushing"...hydration, calories, pills when needed.
When we weren't at the hospital, my husband was in bed. No fresh air...no walks.
I have been consulting with his team all week on his pain meds. I think we finally have the medication where it is managing the pain right...for now...and, his spirits are up and now he's doing better on all fronts.
He feels very self conscious about going outside. He does not want to run into anyone he knows. I think part of that is from the
Erbitux rash...which is settling down...and, the other part is the extreme discomfort of talking (he's just going into week 6 of treatment).
He usually falls asleep early and then wakes up around 11:00 p.m. He said tonight he might entertain the idea of a very late night walk. So, I think that's a good sign.
It's hard to see someone so down and out. But, I did listen to your advice...and, it all worked out well.
Thanks again!