#16669 12-13-2004 04:29 PM | Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 64 Supporting Member (50+ posts) | OP  Supporting Member (50+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 64 | pookie2305
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posted December 13, 2004 05:33 PM
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hi....i just lost my father to oral cancer. he was only 51 years old. it was very difficult to watch him go through this. he went through radiation, chemo, and surgery...there were times he would have to take pills that he couldn't swallow....and at the end, he could only talk out of the side of his mouth. when i saw how big the tumor was, i was shocked. my mom had called me and told me he was talking to people that only he could see. it still didn't hit me....even after i saw him, i just couldn't see him dying. i miss him...i never thought i would see a day like this, without him....he has a granddaughter, whom he loved very much. he will always love her.....
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Pookie :-)
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Posts: 1 | From: Olive Branch,MS | Registered: Dec 2004 | IP:
SCC tonsil(left) with contralateral mets. Modified right neck disection August, 2002. 33 rads(62 gy)both sides of neck and 3 cycles cisplatin completed October 25, 2002. 34 yo at time of diagnosis
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#16670 12-13-2004 05:12 PM | Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 528 "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 528 | Oh Pookie, I'm so sorry for your pain. Your father was so young. He was obviously deeply loved and will be in your heart forever, as you will be in his. I understand what you are experiencing, I lost my own father to cancer. You are in my thoughts and I send condolences and love to you and your family. Helen
RHTonsil SCC Stage IV tx completed May 03
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#16671 12-13-2004 05:25 PM | Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 261 Gold Member (200+ posts) | | Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 261 | I'm so sorry & sad for your loss. Breaks my heart. We are here to listen to you scream, cry, ramble or whatever you need. Erik
dx 2/11/04 scca bot T3 IU 2B MO poorly differentiated, margins ok, 3/16 modest, jaw split, over half of tongue removed, free flap from left forearm - finished chemo & rad treatment 5/20/04
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#16672 12-13-2004 06:46 PM | Joined: Nov 2004 Posts: 104 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Nov 2004 Posts: 104 | Pookie,
So very sorry for the loss of your father. I can't imagine the pain that you and your family are going through. We are all here for you.
Peace
Jack
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Dx 1/15/97 SCC rt. tonsil met to rt lymph node Stg IV,
Srgry 1/23/97 tonsillectomy & mod radical neck dissection,
Radiation 35 trtmnts both sides | | |
#16673 12-14-2004 10:22 AM | Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,152 | Pookie,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Keep all your wonderful memories alive and remember, we are here to help you get through this. Please accept my deepest sympathies in your loss.
Eileen
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Aug 1997 unknown primary, Stage III
mets to 1 lymph node in neck; rt ND, 36 XRT rad
Aug 2001 tiny tumor on larynx, Stage I total laryngectomy; left ND
June 5, 2010 dx early stage breast cancer
June 9, 2011 SCC 1.5 cm hypo pharynx, 70% P-16 positive, no mets, Stage I
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#16674 12-14-2004 05:42 PM | Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 2,606 Likes: 2 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 2,606 Likes: 2 | Pookie,
I am really sorry to hear of your father's passing. I wish I could take away some of the pain you and your family are having to experience right now. I am hoping for comfort and peace for all of you.
Ed
SCC Stage IV, BOT, T2N2bM0
Cisplatin/5FU x 3, 40 days radiation
Diagnosis 07/21/03 tx completed 10/08/03
Post Radiation Lower Motor Neuron Syndrome 3/08.
Cervical Spinal Stenosis 01/11
Cervical Myelitis 09/12
Thoracic Paraplegia 10/12
Dysautonomia 11/12
Hospice care 09/12-01/13.
COPD 01/14
Intermittent CHF 6/15
Feeding tube NPO 03/16
VFI 12/2016
ORN 12/2017
Cardiac Event 06/2018
Bilateral VFI 01/2021
Thoracotomy Bilobectomy 01/2022
Bilateral VFI 05/2022
Total Laryngectomy 01/2023
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#16675 12-15-2004 12:54 AM | Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 372 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 372 | Pookie,
Will keep you and your family in my prayers. It's so hard to see one suffer and lose the one you love so. God does care and I ask Him to give you peace in knowing that you loved your father so much and he will remain in your heart forever. Always talk to your daughter about him so she remembers, too!
Take care,
Debbie
Debbie - Caregiver for husband, Dan, diagnosed with tongue cancer 7/03. Partial gloss., mod. neck dissections, graft. Recurrence neck tumor 12/03. Radical left neck dissection 12/24/03-unable to get all the tumor. 8 weeks chemo/rad beginning 1/12/04.
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#16676 12-16-2004 06:55 AM | Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,163 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,163 | Pookie,
I am so sorry to hear about your father. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. As hard as it is right now things will get better. Try and remember all the good memories you had with your Father. It may ease your pain somewhat. My best wishes to your family this holiday season.
Danny Boy
Daniel Bogan DX 7/16/03 Right tonsil,SCC T4NOMO. right side neck disection, IMRT Radiation x 33.
Recurrance in June 05 in right tonsil area. Now receiving palliative chemo (Erbitux) starting 3/9/06
Our good friend and loved member of the forum has passed away RIP Dannyboy 7-16-2006
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#16677 12-16-2004 02:28 PM | Joined: Jun 2004 Posts: 106 Senior Member (100+ posts) | | Senior Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2004 Posts: 106 | Pookie,
I am so sorry about your father. I just lost my father, he was 88, but it does not make the loss any less. Only comforting thought is that he is not suffering now.
How old is your daughter?
Leena
scc right tonsil T1N1M0, right tonsillectomy + modified neck dissection 3/04, radiation IMRT both sides X33 ended 6/04.
Also had renal cell carcinoma, left kidney removed 11/04
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#16678 12-18-2004 08:36 AM | Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 482 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2004 Posts: 482 | Pookie, welcome to the site. Sorry you had to find us and am very sorry you lost your father at such a young age. Will pray for you, your mother, and the rest of your family that you may find support in the arms of the Lord to comfort you all through this bad time.
Regards, Kirk Georgia
Stage IV, T1N2aM0, right tonsil primary, Tonsilectomy 11/03, 35 rad/3cisplatin chemo, right neck dissection 1/04 - 5/04.
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#16679 12-18-2004 10:29 AM | Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 9 Member | | Member
Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 9 | Hugs sent your way...I lost my Mom 20 yrs ago to another type of C but the pain is the same nonetheless. Know that time will ease the raw hurt but you wll never lose the memories and love you have and shared.
Thinking of you Pookie and wishing I could do more.
MicheleT
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